I recently read and reviewed "Snow Flower and the Secret Fan."* You can read my review by clicking here. In a nutshell, it's the story of two girls who are sworn to be life-long friends and have a falling-out along the way because one girl misunderstood what the other girl meant to say, and they spent years with feelings of remorse and bitterness in their hearts. At the end of Snow Flower's life, they realized that it had all been a misunderstanding, and they made peace.
Reading this book was painful for me. I had a falling-out with a friend of mine three years ago, and we still haven't patched things up. She was struggling with certain difficulties in her life and so was I, and for some reason which I still have not yet figured out, she stopped taking my phone calls. After repeated tries, I realized that she had chosen to stop communicating with me, and so I've respected that, although I don't understand why. I'm sure I must have said or done something that hurt her, but I've thought it through from every angle and can't come up with what I did. We had been as inseparable as the two girls in the book, and now I haven't spoken to her in three years. I hope that we will someday have the chance, as Snow Flower and Lily did, to iron out the misunderstanding and figure out what happened, but for now, she's in my prayers and always will be.
*If you choose to read this book, and you should, because it's good, I strongly recommend that you skip the chapter called "Catching Cool Breezes."