I am asked this question frequently, hence, why I call it a "frequently asked question." Let's take it straight from the horse's -- er, husband's mouth, shall we?
Matt says: I like her writing. She tells stories much better than I could, and much more in depth, and even makes them more appealing to more people than I ever could. I certainly can't make myself cry with my own stories.
I'm proud of her. I'm glad that she writes, I approve of her writing, I like the fact that she's creative, and that she expresses herself. I also like that she's focused on something besides the home so she can be a person beyond the scope of the home.
Most often, the person asking me this question is a woman who wants to write but is worried that her husband won't like it. You would honestly be surprised how often I hear, "I have this dream, but my husband doesn't want me to pursue it." You may want to fasten your seatbelts because I have something to say.
1. Your husband does not control who you are or what your dreams are. If he's telling you that you can't pursue one of your dreams, he is exercising unrighteous dominion. It is not in God's plan for husbands to completely control every aspect of their wife's life.
2. You were given your dreams for a reason. God does not want us wasting our entire lives puttering around, dusting tables. Yes, housework is a necessary part of life, but it is not life. We are to look up and ahead, to have dreams and plans and aspirations. This is what makes life worth living.
3. Your job, as a spouse, is to not only encourage your loved one's ambition, but to support them in it. Years ago, a friend pointed me to the movie "Phenomenon." John Travolta's love interest made really uncomfortable chairs, and placed them for sale in various locations around town. He went around to those locations and bought the chairs, supporting her dream even though she had no idea he was doing it. If you love your wife, you will support her dreams.
4. What difference does it make if her passion does or does not make money? I have heard aspiring writers say, "My husband doesn't want me to write because it won't make any money." Is that what it all comes down to -- the almighty dollar? We should only do things if they make money? Well, how much money do you get for watching TV or playing computer games? It's not about money. It's about being fulfilled. It's about achieving something that will last. It's about validating that sparkle of life within that makes us unique in the first place. If everything came down to money in the end, we'd be no better than the money changers in the temple.
I would not thrive without writing. Writing makes me a better mother, better wife, better all-around person. My husband recognizes this and knows that if I don't get my writing time, I'm not content with my other roles. He gives me writing time. He supports me in my endeavors and is so proud of me. I would not be the woman I am without his support. And I say, if you want to write and your husband won't "let" you, it's time for him to get his head screwed on straight.