". . . sisters, find some time for yourself to cultivate your gifts and interests. Pick one or two things that you would like to learn or do that will enrich your life, and make time for them. Water cannot be drawn from an empty well, and if you are not setting aside a little time for what replenishes you, you will have less and less to give to others, even to your children."
And a bit later on, in speaking to the husbands:
". . . give your wife a “day away” now and then. Just take over the household and give your wife a break from her daily responsibilities. Taking over for a while will greatly enhance your appreciation of what your wife does."
Because the woman's place is ideally in the home, with the children, there is sometimes the mistaken idea that this is the only place a woman belongs, and that there's something wrong with her if she wants to step outside and explore her own interests. I've been thinking about this a lot over the last several months as I've spoken with women who say, "I don't have any hobbies. I have children." Motherhood is the greatest of all jobs in the world, but sisters, I'm here to tell you from personal experience, if you take the time to continue to educate yourself, or to find outside interests that edify you as a person, not just as Billy's mother or Ed's wife, you will find yourself a much happier woman.
Unfortunately, there are men who believe that their wife's sole purpose is to stay in the home. It is her purpose to create a loving atmosphere for the family, true. But she has a brain, and talents, and abilities, and she needs fuel to keep those alive. By the same token, how would you feel if you stayed home all the time and never left? Just as you get fed up with the kids chasing each other around the house and need to go outside and mow the lawn to clear your head, she's a bit frustrated with how those same kids have been chasing each other around for eight hours a day, five days a week, fifty-two weeks a year. You've got nothin' on her for parental frustration.
I love my husband and children dearly. I feel truly blessed that I get to be their mother, his wife, and this family's matriarch. I also know that I fulfill those roles much better when I have enough Tristi time. I come back refreshed and ready to keep up the good fight. And I have to say -- I don't feel a bit guilty about it.