Saturday, July 07, 2007


I was taking stock of my life yesterday and came to the important conclusion that I'm teetering on the brink of burn-out. I can't imagine why. Let's think.

* I have four children.

* One of them is two.

* I homeschool.

* I write book and movie reviews.

* I'm an author.

* I blog.

* I'm a housewife.

* I'm a Scout leader.

* I own my own business.

It's not so much that I have a lot on my plate, although I do. My main issue is that I have a need to do everything perfectly. I get that from my mother. If we're given an assignment, we both feel the need to do it to the absolute best of our ability. This makes us wonderful chairpersons, presidents and leaders, but it also makes us looney, daffy and grumpy. (Yes, we're having a Warner Brothers meets Disney moment.)

Why this ever-pressing need to be perfect? Isn't it okay to do a good job without having to do a superlatively fabulous job?

I read Donny Osmond's book and one thing he said really struck me. He had such a fierce desire to be perfect that it was causing him social anxiety disorder every time he'd perform, fearing he wouldn't be good enough. He said the thing that helped him the most was hearing his wife say that it was okay to do a good job and leave it at that. He gave himself permission to give a little less, and it freed him up to do even better.

So I'm going to try that for a little while. I can do a good job without having to be perfect. I give myself permission to relax and to stop worrying about all the things that are going to slip through the cracks. Chances are, they weren't all that important anyway.


Karen said...

What a relief to be content with a job well done -- not done perfectly, but done well enough! It is liberating, isn't it?

Shanna Blythe said...

Perfect shmerfect! You gotta enjoy yourself. After all we are here to be happy too!

Tamra Norton said...

Amen, sister! :)

Jen said...

When I'm feeling this way, I have 2 quotes that get me through,

"We can't all...and some of us don't" -Eeyore.

"Housework don incorrectly still blesses your family." The Flylady.

ali said...

I hear ya! And I applaud your commitment to mediocrity!

I'm a fan of the Flylady myself and think she has blessed me so much by letting me forgive myself for IMperfections.

Go for it Tristi!

Lisa said...

This is an area I have struggled with, too! But I am getting better and you will, too!

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